What I’m getting is that all the women in Middle Earth ran off and set up their own civilization somewhere….
June 2013
'wednesday addams on the streets, uncle fester in the sheets'
“The sugarcoating of the Mad Men encounter, as well as the survivor accounts on The Good Men Project, highlight how troubling gender myths influence our awareness of sexual violence and often render male victims invisible. In our culture, male sexuality is overwhelmingly depicted as powerful, dominant, invulnerable, and sexually insatiable. Our more cartoonish notions of gender, found everywhere from deodorant commercials to bromantic comedies, perpetuate the idea that men are little more than walking boners, always up for sex. And, even though science has demonstrated otherwise, the misconception that an erection implies consent—that a man, in fact, can’t penetrate unwillingly—is still commonplace.”
—Don Draper Was Raped by Abigail Rine
so this is incredibly important, because although this is a fictional character, the lack of reaction to this scene reflects upon our cultural and societal reaction/view toward rape of men. this is why i hate the ‘what if she was your mother, daughter, sister’ approach, because women are not the only ones who are raped and people should care because EVERYONE matters. the patriarchy, gender binary, and gender stereotypes all combine to create this idea that only women are raped and it keeps men from feeling safe and able to speak up. doing so could make them ‘unmanly’ or ‘weak’ and this has to stop. when we talk about consent, sexual assault, sexual harassment, and rape, we need to be talking about everyone.
“May the space between where I am and where I want to be inspire me.”
—Tracee Ellis Ross (via wethinkwedream)
“Find meaning. Distinguish melancholy from sadness. Go out for a walk. It doesn’t have to be a romantic walk in the park, spring at its most spectacular moment, flowers and smells and outstanding poetical imagery smoothly transferring you into another world. It doesn’t have to be a walk during which you’ll have multiple life epiphanies and discover meanings no other brain ever managed to encounter. Do not be afraid of spending quality time by yourself. Find meaning or don’t find meaning but “steal” some time and give it freely and exclusively to your own self. Opt for privacy and solitude. That doesn’t make you antisocial or cause you to reject the rest of the world. But you need to breathe. And you need to be.”
—Albert Camus, from “Notebooks, 1951-1959” (via hasser)
how to excite a large crowd of white people:
- play don’t stop believin’ by journey
“I was moaning to the make-up girl that I hadn’t got a boyfriend, and she said there was a guy on the same job who’d been saying the same thing, that he was looking for a nice girl. At that minute Martin walked in and I just had a thunderbolt. It dawned on me: “Oh, God it’s him!” We flirted with each other all day and when I went home he texted me, saying “You left and I wasn’t done flirting with you. That’s a bit rude.”
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Amanda Abbington, on how she and Martin Freeman met.
this smooth ass motherfucker
(via vatican-cameoss)
meeting with my father went as expected on his part; first thing out of his mouth was ‘well you look kinda fat don’t you?’
‘highlights’ include: trying to turn me against my mother, guilt tripping me about everything and anything, talking about money (and how much mum supposedly has), lots of not-so-veiled complaints about how bad he’s got it (ya reap what ya sow), and the crowning glory was trying to put me in contact with his ‘connections’ (some sheikh [lol yea right] that he’s doing business with) and getting pissed when i declined.
i’m surprised i kept it together, and that i didn’t react to any of his bullshit. i’ve realised it’s pointless. he’ll never learn. he’ll always be a piece of shit.
“
What the less-privileged have to say is usually not accorded much importance, critical thought, or respect, and yet they are supposed to prioritize, be patient with, and generally assign more importance to views, values and norms that are not their own. People in marginalized communities are often expected to educate the more privileged majority. They may be expected to patiently explain basic concepts, sometimes repeatedly. And if those with more privilege decide that they do not agree (with the less-privileged group’s tone, focus, or any number of other things other than the actual argument that is being made), those with less privilege are told, with varying degrees of subtlety, to shut the fuck up.
All the while, the perspectives, attitudes, norms and values of those with more privilege are made neutral. The power dynamics are rendered invisible, because that’s just the way things are, so there’s no point in trying to change any of it. Why are you so angry? You’re just looking for things to get mad about. You just like being offended. Why can’t you focus on other/more important things? It wasn’t meant that way. You need to hold your tongue until you’ve done x, y and z. Quit taking it personally. You’re ruining everyone’s good time. Stop trying to make everyone pay attention to your pet issue, because it doesn’t affect anyone other than you. Your demands are unreasonable. Stop complaining. Shut up.
” —Who Killed Civil Discourse? Evelyn Evelyn, Marginalization, and Internet Discussion(via talaem)
plz cross yer fingers that i don’t have a panic attack on the subway or cry/pass out/vomit in front of my father
this is the worst i just want it to be over
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having “feelings” is ruining my reputation of being a heartless bitch